What to do when “I Can’t” calls your name…
Have you ever had a strong longing or desire to “throw caution to the wind” and just *do* something you’ve always wanted to do? It could be a desire to start your own business, ask your boss for a pay rise, go skydiving, to say hello to that person you really like…or just to get started at the gym.
Then suddenly, without any warning, you receive that terrible phone call. You know how it goes: “Hi, this is your unconscious calling. I just wanted to let you know, you “can’t” do that, its too dangerous / you can’t afford it / you don’t have the time / you’ll embarrass yourself / it’s too risky — or any other number of reasons you can think of.
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You know that feeling, don’t you? The one where you really wanted to chase that goal or desire, and you didn’t do it! The opportunity passed you by and now you just wish you’d gone and done it.
My Biggest Regret — Don’t let this happen to you
This same thing happened to me a few years back. I’d just finished a four day arduous hike up to Machu Picchu, along the steep and winding Inca trail. The walk alone was a very spiritual experience. You could feel the ancient Incas talking to you from every hand-carved step. We arrived on a magnificent brisk morning — just in time to watch the sun rise over the ancient city. It was a very special moment.
As I sat marveling at this breathtaking vision — I felt on top of the world, like there was nothing in the world I couldn’t accomplish …or so I thought.
You see, there’s a lesser known part of Machu Picchu, known as “Wayna Picchu” …which is the steep and tall peak behind Machu Picchu that you can see in most photos. The climb to the top of Wayna Picchu is extremely steep, very narrow and there’s no guard rail. Basically…if you slip and fall it’s almost certain death! None the less, I desperately wanted to climb that peak, but I received the “You can’t do that, it’s too dangerous” call. So I didn’t do it.
Even though I had great balance, the best walking boots available and I was fit enough – I still didn’t do it.
To this day, I regret that choice…
Our Thoughts Dictate Our Actions
It’s self-evident: how we feel about ourselves and what we think of our own abilities and skills, in many ways determines what we do and what we don’t do! And in some cases that can leave us with regrets and missed opportunities.
The ironic side of this is, we all have enormous potential and it’s just our belief — or rather our “lack” of belief in ourselves (that’s programmed into our unconscious) that holds us back in life.
Telling Your Subconscious To Shut Up
So … what can you do when “I Can’t” calls *your* name?
Changing your entire mindset with one question
Well the answer is not all that complicated, and, I first stumbled upon it by observing my eldest son, Josh
Some years ago I was teaching him how to kick a football (not a soccer ball, a football!). After about four or five attempts he was convinced he couldn’t do it. I asked him if he remembered when he first started learning to ride a pushbike, and just how convinced he was he couldn’t do it. Then I reminded him of how well he can ride a bike now.
So I asked him, “How did you learn to ride the pushbike?”
He replied with, “I really wanted to learn how to ride, and I just kept trying ‘till I got it!”.
Well then, I said, “do you really want to learn how to kick a football?” That simple question changed his entire mindset.
Can you kick a football?
Picture this — a few years later I took him Heli-Skiing in New Zealand. He was 12 by then and was pretty excited, both about the helicopter ride and skiing some awesome untracked powder snow. The helicopter dropped us at the top of the mountain, and on the cue of an almighty shout — the guide took off down the mountain!
Josh followed, took 2 turns and fell over. He’d never skied “powder” before. He got up, took another 3 turns and fell over again. And then one turn and fell over again. This time he didn’t get up.
Our guide was almost out of sight and that’s when Josh exclaimed in a very loud voice, “I can’t do this dad! We’re going to be stuck on this mountain forever!” I said, do you remember when you were convinced you couldn’t kick a football? How well can you kick one now?
How about when you were convinced that you couldn’t ride a bike? Do you remember how you learnt to do that?
He groaned, got up, skied three turns and fell over again. But this time he got up and he kept skiing and falling all the way to the bottom. By the third run, he was skiing better than me and easily keeping up with everyone else…
You Have Done So Many Amazing Things — Why Stop Now?
Each and everyone one of us has already done so many amazing things — like learning to ride a bike, learning to drive a car, learning to walk, leaving home and living on our own for the first time, learning how to talk to the opposite sex without making a fool of yourself (some of us are still learning to do that ☺). If you were to go back to any one of those times now, I’m sure there were a few “I can’t” moments in there, but you did it anyway.
We’ve just forgotten how to hang up on that “I can’t” call.
To get that skill back, we need to change the beliefs that we have about ourselves. We need to create new neural pathways, and destroy old limiting ones.
A good place to start is to remind yourself of all the times in the past when you received the “I can’t” call — and then just went out and did it anyway.
I like to think of it as the time when you hung up on “I can’t” and gave “I can” a call. I’m sure you can picture yourself doing this…can you not?
Then, start with small stuff — those little things that are just outside of your comfort zone. The reason this is so important is because, each time you challenge yourself, no matter how small it might seem, you create a new neural pathway, a new belief that “you can do it” and you rebuild your confidence and belief in yourself. Over time, your comfort zone will be expanding and you’ll be surprising yourself, everyday.
How To Expand Your Comfort Zone — Talking to your subconscious
If you wanted to speed up the process, you can also take advantage of some of the latest tools and developments in mind sciences and unconscious re-programming…and start rapidly turning your dreams into realities and results.
Examples of such tools of accelerated personal change are Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, and Subliminal Video Messaging. These kinds of technologies greatly enhance any self work that you do and significantly speed up the results.
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Subliminal Messages — Not just for mass control
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I’d also really like to hear your thoughts and experiences, so post a comment. And if you can hear that phone ringing, and you know it’s “I Can’t” on the line, just don’t answer it. Make this your first step…then check out what Noel Jones is doing as your second step.
Looking forward to your comments.
Oh! – one final thought, do you remember that little train that puffed away saying “I think I can, I think I can..”? Well if you have children then it’s a great story to tell them every so often. It’s called “The little Engine That Could” by Watty Piper.
Warmly,
Richard A. Luck
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As a scientific applications programmer I had tough assignments in the past, of the kind people usually say “I‘d never do that.It´s madness” but my attitud was such “It can’t be so hard” and I always got the job done!
i have just read that it was very good i get told that i cant all the time yet i have done so much and i have been so brave i have 3 lovely children and a great husband i will try and hang up on i cant and give a call a calll i can claire
Why can’t you provide this information in a hard copy
format. My only access to a computor is at work. I would be happy to purchase a cd or DVD.
I look forward to you news letters.
Frank,
Great article! We rarely regret what we have done, we often regret that which we never tried to do.
I felt inspired by this article and I had the feeling from the sample video that this sort of thing could really work. Thanks.
I was a reserved left-brained engineer who was told my mission was to write books on wisdom and life purpose. (I had no idea at the time what that would be–most of the amazing events and synchronicities that occurred happened AFTER I committed my time and life to the writing of that book.)
My book ended up being a memoir of my reconnecting and awakening process. A few years before, before I had my third and fourth drafts, my mind was often saying “Your writing sucks,” “You have nothing to say,” and other such things. (And it was right!) But I kept going because I was reconnecting to my higher self (my subconscious) and it was giving me insights and experiences that was giving my book much value and depth. With each draft I was also consciously learning to write better, and my book was later recognized as a finalist in a national award in the memoir category in 2008.
I’m not sure any “subconscious programming” videos would have worked on me. I was not one to be fooled like that. I knew myself and I knew I would need to progress through my reconnecting (right-brained) and my conscious learning (left-brained.) Besides, I am clear that we cannot program our subconscious (our higher self.) The interesting thing is that our higher self has us programmed for certain learnings and experiences.
For me, there is no such thing as an “unconscious mind.” The unconscious is simply something you’re not conscious about, what you don’t know that you don’t know.
I am now working on a practical manual for 2012 and the “Great Awakening” and I no longer have those thoughts in my head that I don’t have much to offer of value. I am clear that I do. But it was those “negative” thoughts that kept me going and learning and progressing that helped me offer my best. As you can probably guess, I am now grateful for those negative thoughts.
Christine Hoeflich
What Everyone Believed: A Memoir of Intuition and Awakening
I really reading your article, The things I have tried to change, especially my personal life. Whenever I have failed, I have gotten up & start again. But I belong to a family, who always had/have always criticized me in whatever I do or want to do. Always putting me down. Now I am always scared of whole situation or starting again, or to try again.- & my life seems to go darker & darker. I feel useless.
Well done. I liked the analogy you used. Such a simple question seems to blow down the hurdles by tapping right into one’s motivation.
This helped me a lot.
Once you have found your perfect partner and you both really L O V E one another, you will have everything you want!
Everything else is idle talk.
All the best of success,
Ina
I am a senior citizen, retired after working over 30 years with the medical profession. I realize even at my age that there are many creative talents I have never put to use. I raised three children of which I am very proud of. Now it’s time for me to unleash my talents one by one. I thank you for bringing the I Can’s to the surface even more.
well I thought the article was a very honest one without any bragging from the author. In fact many of us go through this all the time, the difference is only a few can create an opposing flow of thought to create a breakthrough pattern of new evolving set of thoughts. Lets all consciously repattern the self limiting, bigotted, prejudiced, fear filled lower mind and restructure it into a universally conscious mind. I am advocating a new consciousness — universal consciousness, lets all transcend all barriers that make us feel separate from each other. I thank this wonderful man for being part of this new wave of universal consciousness.
Regards,
Mani — Founder –Malaysian Yoga Society
Great article! I watched the video and read the article too. very good. Yes, we are so programmed from childhood with things we can´t do and I read somewhere that by the time we are 15 we have heard “you can´t” 150.000 times while we have heard “you can” only 5000 times. So we have a lot of reprogramming to do. I have read a lot about affirmations and subliminal messages since I am doing research all the time for my website on The Secret of Life. I have been practicing subliminal messages for 7 months — it is working, but I never had a video– I only used the audio. Great that you have provided a video we can watch. I will certainly watch this one twice a day. Thanks a lot. Best regards, Camillo
I am learning how to swim right now and as I’m 26 it is “a bit” difficult. I can swim a bit but I still can’t jump in the pool and every time I try to I say to myself “no way! I can’t do it!”. I was saying the same when I was supposed to go from the shallow to the deep pool — “no way! Too deep! I can’t do it!” but I did it
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Thank you for this post! It was very inspiring
! Next time I say to myself that there’s no way I’ll jump in that pool, I’ll remember all the things I thought I can’t and I did 
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Thanks for posting about this, I would love to read more about this topic.
inspiring. I am eighty two years old and in the process of reclaiming my life through a newly found I CAN belief. Swimming more lenghths,driving my car again, I could go on and on. Yes… life begins at eighty two!
I first read this a month ago, bought the videos and have been watching them every day, twice a day. I had reached a level of despair due to the state of my finances, working hard every day as a real estate broker and commercial property manager, and finding that the money supply had simply slowed to a trickle. So many demands on my money, too little time and money to meet those demands. I have known for years that I can, and have just gone out and done it (my own business, hiring an assistant, opening two offices, buying a small office building, etc.). The next big hurdle is overcoming the “I can’t” when it comes to attracting money. Oh, I’m 61 years old. Yes, I CAN.