Are you ready to enhance your relationship with desire and an undying passion straight from a romance novel? Or fall head over heals in love again? I'm not talking just about gazing into your loved one's eyes. I'm also talking about throwing everything off the table just so you can make love.
Sound intense? It should be and it can be.
The first step to getting there is with the 3 Passion Pledges, which have been developed by Burt Goldman or better known as the American Monk. Now keep in mind that these exclusive tips have only been released to Burt Goldman's list and are part of his recently released, highly anticipated Enlightened Sexuality program. This program combines the growth and self discovery that comes with spirituality with the intimacy, pleasure, and intensity of sex.
For anyone seeking the power of love, it's a must have. If you're in a long term relationship and you're looking to bring back the desire or rekindle the flame so to speak, it's for you. But if you're single, it's just as amazing. Learn to pinpoint and manifest what it is that you need in your love life.
So without further ado, here are the 3 Passion Pledges.
The 3 Passion Pledges
by Burt Goldman
These 3 Passion Pledges have helped a number of my close friends improve their relationship by leaps and bounds, and I'm sure it'll do the same for you. All you have to do is complete 3 simple tasks over the next 3 days. Don't worry, they won't be too hard. I'm not going to ask you to rent an airplane and paint your lover's name across the sky.
Pledge 1
So let's get started. Pledge number one is oh-so-easy, but when done right will undoubtedly put a grateful smile on your partner's face...
The Mindfulness Exercise
First, spend 5 minutes thinking about what challenges your partner faces in his or her life.
Do they have a stressful job? Do they have to go through heavy traffic, or a busy commute every day? Are they constantly bogged down with house chores?
Kids?
Health issues?
Once you've identified these challenges, pick one (preferably the one they seem bothered about most), and talk to them about it.
Don't overcomplicate things. All you have to do is find an appropriate time, when he or she is relaxed, look into your partners eyes (and I mean really look into their eyes) and start the conversation with a simple statement.
A statement like "It must be tiring for you to travel that distance every single day." Or "The kids sure can be a handful sometimes, eh?"
Trust me. Even if it's a plain statement about a daily occurrence, they'll appreciate the fact that you noticed.
The next step is LISTEN. They will most likely open up about the issue, and this is where empathy comes into play.
Be supportive. Listen to what they're saying, and offer solutions or suggestions whenever possible.
Make sure they realize that you know where they're coming from. If the challenge they're facing stems from a fault of their own, gently offer advice. Nobody likes to be talked down to.
And what do you do if they don't open up about the issue? Just tell them you understand what they're going through, and that you're willing to help them if they need it. At the very least that'll give them some food for thought.
And that's all there is to it! Like I said, this is an essential step to take before you start using my upcoming program, so I sincerely hope you'll give it a try. It's so simple that if you can't commit to this, I can safely say you are NOT committed to having a passionate and intimate relationship.
Pledge 2
So now that we're done with Passion Pledge number one, we'll move on to the second one. And this one is perhaps even simpler than the first.
The Compliment Exercise
Think about something you could say to your partner that would make them know you love, admire and appreciate them.
It could be a physical complement. For example, you could tell them you've always loved the way their eyes sparkle when they smile. Or how even after all these years, their legs are still as sexy as ever.
It could also be a complement on their talents or abilities. If they cook, you could remind them you absolutely love the food they make. If they work in an office, you could tell them you admire the dedication it must take to get all that work done in one day.
The more specific you are with your complement, the better.
Don't say something that could come across as insincere. Your complement should be about your partner as a person, so instead of saying *"Nice shoes honey," you could say *"I love your taste in shoes. You know exactly what to pick to make yourself look even more gorgeous."
A complement works best when your partner is relaxed. Try this exercise at a time when both of you are at ease, which could be during breakfast, during a night out, or even when you're getting ready for bed.
All you have to do is get their attention, look into their eyes, and most importantly, say it like you mean it.
Who knows, your partner might give you a nice reward for it 
Pledge 3
Now we are at the third and final Passion Pledge. But before we begin, did you commit to the first two? What sort of results did you get?
The third Passion Pledge is perhaps the most powerful. And it may also be the most challenging.
The Intimacy Exercise
This may be something you're not used to. And if that's the case, trust me--you must get used to it, because it's an irreplaceable ingredient to a lifetime of intimacy and passion.
Now here's what you do:
Talk to your partner about your sex life. Don't beat around the bush, don't cover it up with analogies, and get ready to be as honest and open as possible.
Ask them if they've been enjoying it.
Ask them if there's anything they think could make it better.
Ask them if they'd like to do it more often.
Listen to their answers, and give your own opinions. Be honest, but remember to be sensitive to their feelings. Refrain from talking in an accusatory tone.
Remember, you love each other. You're a team, and you're doing this to make each other happier, more fulfilled individuals.
If there's a problem, talk about how you can work together to fix it.
If there's no problem, talk about how you can make things even better.
The solution may not always be immediately visible, but that doesn't mean there isn't one.
When two people are willing to give their all, there will always be a solution.
Being open with one another is an important first step to regaining a passionate relationship.
The next step, which I guarantee will energize your relationship with endless passion and intimacy, is coming soon. You'll discover it once you start my program, Enlightened Sexuality.
Thanks Burt, i needed that.
i am happy that you connect sex and spirituality, biosphere and noosphere, eros and Agape.
the links at the bottom of the article to 'Enlightened Sexuality' and 'Set your relationship on fire >>' don't seem to work... (at least not when using Google Chrome.)
I love you for what you find hard.
I love you for what you find easy.
I adore our sex life. x
Thanks Burt,
I've already started working along these lines. I turned 80 in February and I'm keen to be passionate again.
Keep it coming.
cheers
Andrew
Thanks Burt,
I hit 80 in February and your suggestions which I had already begun practising last month, really hit the spot. Keep them coming.
cheers
Andrew
Thank You for posting this - what a very good read!! It is always good to read again what works in a relationship - the hard part is finding someone who will practice it and once you have two people who do - Watch out!!
*Just a teeny tiny problem - the links don't work to go check out Burt's program*
Thanks again for such a timely post!
so how does this help someone who had a vasetomy and lost their labido
Hi,
This is so simple that people could feel that it is not powerful. All the three of them are simply Golden rules for all lasting and intimate relationships.
How do you engage these tools when you spouse has been unfaithful to you, says they have quit their addiction, but you now have a serious TRUST issue...... how do you regain any intimacy ?
Thanks for any advice
I believe in chemistry. That kind of thing you can't control. That's how I choose my partners...:-) CHEMISTRY is not something you can buy or create. You have it or not, it's a matter of skin, memory of the cells, pheromones, hormones....:-) Missing each other also works for my lover and I to grow our desire.
Good reading; unlikely in my house, but I may try
Dear Burt, My friend Gertrude is 99 and she says the most important thing in a relationship is good sex, and plenty of it. She's not seeing anyone at the moment, would you like her number?
you are awesome a samurai a perfect gentleman
a samurai would die for his better half and what you have said
is the perfect gentleman
Your three stages are excellent but in more free western culutre. How to apply these in a suppressed Indian culture ? Have you some more stages to get the expected attraction in Indian culture ?
Thank you for your insight
To Nick.
May I recommend you do some tapping with EFT on your problem with lost libido after vasectomy (your physician probably has no remedy)..."EFT often works where nothing else will" - might be great for you ! I do hope you get your full libido back !
As an old timer, a family physician with a new younger bride,I am working on the Big 3, you had better believe it. I am proving the pundits predictions of an incipient marital disaster wrong.!!
Go David G Spall ..............
Quality, not quantity wins hands down, my friend
Bless you both ........
What an interesting view of make love going for a long time....... With that and the sparkle between two people it will work forevever..... Thanks...... Have a great day!!!!!!! I will!!!!!!!
I have been optimistic that "things would get better" for 18 years. Once my stepchildren grew up, once I had been married to him longer than his first wife, once he finished school..... but the sad truth is that he's verbally and emotionally abusive, and has been so to me, his first group of children, our children together, his siblings, etc. It took me getting physically ill and a whole year of counseling before I realized the truth. I still love him dreadfully, but he will not change, and I cannot live like that anymore. If, with time, he does realize what he has done, and works to change and heal himself, maybe we can renew our relationship. But not now.
thanks for posting my comment you truly are the samurai
of life and love i do believe you would die for your better half
To Ellen,
...And not ever again I pray for you! We're all here to do our own task, to make this a better place for all to come, not to ruin other lifes! You are an essentiel part in this so find your task! I don't think you came here just to be a victim! Show your kids how to make it worth while and only feel sorry for the ones who clearly don't know why they're here for so they take their own insecurity out on others!!! May the rest of your life be the best of your life!!
Do you think that being single or alone for 3 years is not recomended to someone who was not happy in a marriage over 20 years? It takes time to be healed and find right person who you can trust. Marzanna 77
well this was good fore people in relationships but i did not see how it can help some one that is singal. Am i just missing the boat?
I am a 58 year old woman and I have always found it hard to talk about sexual intimacies. As a child there were sexual things that went on in the family and I was either put in my room or told to go out side. With the talk I heard it sounded like my father was a rapist and child molesterer. Later on in years I found out that he was and that as a child himself was raped as a 4 year old boy; the Family had shielded me from it all. My Father and Mother have been passed for many years now and I have forgiven them, my brothers, sisters and myself for all that has happened. I am definitely going to try the 3 Passion Pledges I have Faith and Trust that it will work. Love and Light to you.
I must disagree with pledge #1. More often than not, a woman wants a sympathetic ear and feels better just being validated. She does not want you solving HER problem. However, she will appreciate your offer to be part of HER solution. Far better to say; If there is anything I can do to help with this, please tell me.
Let us daily increase in: wisdom, love, gratitude, reverence, healing, peace, joy, happiness, laughter and prosperity.
Blessings X 10,
Ed