Comments on: Stop Taking Things Personally!

By: louise2

louise2 — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:04:31 +0000

A girl from school once said to me (after i helped her with the copy machine):" Do you think you´re some kind of a hero". I asked her what her problem was to which she responded: "You're my problem" . I didnt say anything back to her but later i realized I could have said: well that's your problem not mine and I can't help you with that:) But I think if a work colleague criticizes your work performance for example,then instead of immediately thinking "oh, he's/she 's criticising me", focus on what it is the person wants(because it's allways about their need for something),if their beeing vague, then ask them to be more specific about the problem and how you can help. But if you can't help then let them know.And don't let it become a one way dialogue(where you become a victim). For me it helps to think like this:The ego is your inner child who is always vulnerable and gets hurt. Leave your child at home when you go to work and when you have discussions with grown-ups:)

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Thu, 06 Aug 2009 04:36:48 +0000

Great exercise! I’m writing those words on my fridge door so I can read them each day. I might have to use them for more than just one person. Would recommend a good book about this subject? Thank you!!

By: mel

mel — Sat, 30 May 2009 03:43:18 +0000

That made my day!

By: Deidra

Deidra — Tue, 05 May 2009 23:20:41 +0000

Awesome! I felt an instant release. I am going to put these words of wisdom into practise in my daily life. Thank You so much!

By: norma

norma — Thu, 19 Mar 2009 05:18:33 +0000

i was very interested in your program but the use of that language in any situation is mind bugling and that you would go in that direction with the kind of program you are putting out.
no thanks

By: Happyhal

Happyhal — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 04:30:24 +0000

another exercise that i use is the “this is me …that is not me!” I repeat the process first holding a written or graphic reminder of the person place or thing causing the distress. I repeat over and over with successively closer things to my heart in my fingers until at the end I hold my clothes,car,or even my own flesh. The real me in a forever thing that out lasts the dig,the pain,or even the joy! The net result of unhooking my self from the problems; is to free me to really experience the moment. Truly that is all I have, the future is guaranteed to no one, the past is never to be crossed again except in memory, no now is all I have!

By: Tiffany

Tiffany — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 20:26:09 +0000

At lunch time I was feeling down because of a small tiff I had with a co-worker that I used to be friends and go to lunch with. We haven’t talked for over a month now. I was feeling bad about what her views were of me…and who else she was in alliance with (if she was talking about me to others)…this article just lifted all of that gunky muck off my back! Thanks!! I did exercise #2 here at my desk…ever so quietly in my mind…and it still worked for me. I’m going to print this article out and every time I feel bad — or start to get that ‘woe is me’ feeling, I’m gonna read this article.

By: jerry

jerry — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 18:42:58 +0000

I enjoyed reading the article. What goes on in the world…is nothing more that what is in the hearts of men(people).All these things that transpire…are lessons on how to be. All emotions are waves, that we must learn to surf, not serve. The secrets out…how much of whats out there is used/made to detract us from true source thinking(if I can say). We all must travel this road…some are in for the long trip, others get off way before the last stop. In all…destroy the ego, is what its all about, to no longer be individualistic, rather live for the whole, or the one(inferring the world,all of us).No one is,was better than any other.What’s coming is super wicked, but it will certify, that not a one will embark in any form of erronous thoughts/action ever again, it is so beautiful(the end result of course)
We are in, for a very rude awakening. all, that are for the whole will still be around, all those that are not…will no longer be around. It is my opinion of course. I believe we all are responsible for our thinking, from this, we always experience that, that is our due. To learn of course,in the end…its all our egos.
So, this article…small little blurb, but the stepping stones to a moral,integral,honest, and caring society( I’m hoping ).
Anyway, thank you very much for the opportunity to rant and rave.
Health to all!!!

By: Nova Cynthia

Nova Cynthia — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 21:03:13 +0000

Five ******
I love it!
I am always reminded not to take people and the things they do personally, as my mentor of 20 yrs [ Don Juan ] said, “A warrior learns to drop self-importance,” it’s a prerequisite to personal freedom. and I also love T.K. Eker’s Exercises; in that they help bring humor and a loss of prudery to this process!

Love-Light, Nova Cynthia
Coaching From The Heart Chakra

By: Liz

Liz — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 19:44:48 +0000

Wonderful ‚cathartic exercise, well done! Instead of inserting an individual’s name, I addressed the world and felt a load shift of my shoulders. Love and Light to all, Liz.