Sasha Xarrian
There are many in America right now that are losing their homes.
My children and I lost our home shortly after my divorce. Losing your home, a loved one, a business, a job, or any other significant thing or person in our lives brings forth vast and unsettling emotions.
Our sense of security, identity, and safety is threatened.
We wonder if we will survive. We wonder how we will survive. We feel pain, anger and a sense of tremendous loss.
At one time or another we will all experience this in our journey through life.
Sometimes we merely survive the upset.
Sometimes we are left with unresolved anger and a lingering or lifelong feeling of unjustness and unfairness.
Editor’s Note: Sasha Xarrian is the author of the Outrageous Mastery® trilogy, which has been read in over 90 countries.
It’s the true story of a woman who lost everything; her extended Mormon family, husband, home, money, friends, and the set of beliefs she had followed since birth.
But despite all that, she has created a life of wonder and vision, healed her son from a lifelong illness, developed a system for instantaneous communication with God/Higher Power, created vast amounts of money in very short periods of time, and increased the love in her life by 1000%.
Her key to all this? Self-confidence.
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Sometimes we experience a greater sense of ourselves and our abilities. We realize that we can not only survive but that we have intelligence, instincts, and strengths beyond what we previously believed. Sometimes we experience a peace that is more profound than we ever imagined. Sometimes our self-confidence expands. Many times we learn the power of letting go. And many times we learn that we are not the things we own or we are not the other half of another person.
What is life about?
Why do these “calamities” befall us?
Why are we here?
I believe that we are here to learn who we really are. I believe that we are here to grow in our power, love, intelligence and sense of self. I believe we are here to demonstrate to ourselves that we can survive and that after and through survival we rise to higher levels of spiritual and internal power. When I use the word power, I mean the ability, capacity and action of generating – of creating – this divine power within that many times has lain dormant waiting to be awakened.
Are you experiencing a wakeup call right now?
Are you being challenged beyond reason?
Are you unsure of your ability to survive or cope?
Know that you are more than this experience.
Know that you are divine.
Know that, on some level, you may even have created this event for your own growth or wakeup call.
Know that this may be a turning point in your life.
Know that you may discover a part of yourself that you never knew existed.
Know that – in time – you may look back on this experience and call it the best
thing that could have happened to you.
Know that it is not “bad” and neither are you.
Know that you are a creator.
Know that life is with you – whether you feel it now or not.
Know that you have the ability to look at what occurred or is occurring and figure out what you could have done differently to have prevented this. Know that it really is okay that you didn’t prevent it. Learn from this experience.
Some of you have read in Outrageous Mastery® how I figured out how to get a home for my children and myself. It was a wreck and it made me angry but once my children and I accepted it as a challenge – we rose to the occasion.
The pride that we all felt a year later went soul-deep. A neighbor just shook her head and said, “You are superwoman!”
And I felt like superwoman.
Know that everything passes.
Know that life goes on.
Know that you are more than this experience.
Know there is a reason for it.
Know it may turn into a gift.
Know that you are incredibly special.
Know that you are loved.
Know that it doesn’t mean you are a failure.
Know that it doesn’t mean anything negative about you.
It is a life experience. That is all.
And it is an opportunity to be stretched, to go beyond your comfort zone, to find
out how tough you really are. It is your challenge.
Rise to the occasion and show yourself who you are.
Look for and find the opportunity that is awaiting you. It is there.
Know you are more important and worth more than what is happening.
Know, as time passes, everything will be fine.
Know that you are the one that can make it fine.
With Love and Mastery,
Sasha Xarrian
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I love the look of confidence, Love and Mastery in your eyes/on your face. Hopefully, I can achieve it too.
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Hi Sasha,
What a wonderful,inspirational article!
Marvellous use of words.
Self Confidence is the main key for anyone’s success.
Thanks for sharing and uplifting.
Thanks,
Kannan viswagandhi
Thank you Sasha,
I just woke up and checked my e-mails for a lack of anything to do and when I saw a finer minds message I knew it was something that I needed to read and was sent to me for a reason. Well I was corrrect. I downloaded your report, The Keys to Phenomenal Self-Confidence, and it was wonderful. I have, like many people, been down do to life circumtances
and I needed a kick to get started again. This was it. I have aways believed in my self-confidence and just needed that self pity time. Well I had it and now it’s time for to examine what created my current low and take on the next challenge that life has graciously offered me. Thank you for the kick.
John
HI Sasha,
I am Ruth. It is great to read your story. We have similarities. I was trying to find out where I could read your book. Also learn your fabulous methods of making income. I have had Spinal surgeries and am dead broke. No credit card. So…stumped how to get your mentoring. Do you have another way I can reach you? Please mentor me?
All the best,
Ruth
I agree that it’s difficult sometimes to look at a situation and see that you would rather it didn’t happen again but all the same it isn’t all negative. Thanks for the article.
How true i lost my job through a bogus redundancy and guess what it made me free to start a new position and be free to enjoy life again and do what i wanted you must believe in yourself and tell yourself where you are going each day and it will Happen try it !!! be carefull what you wish for though !!
regards Don
Thank you so much for your inspiration. This was the first email I read this mourning ‚and it seemed to be speaking to me .I love your words on confidents and look forword to reading more words of inspiration from you . All the best, Ruby
Great words of encouragement. I do believe all the points you have made in your article. I have lost 7 rental properties ( My retirement) and am about to loose my home but am holding on tooth and nail! I lost both my parents and am divorced. Thank heavens my children are in there 20s’. They are struggling too but seem to be getting by. I believe I will laugh again, will learn something from all this, and will be happy again but at this point I just feel like rolling up in a ball and crying! Everything seems harder at 56 years old! I have 4 years of college but never got a degree. I wish I knew my fastest and cheapest avenue to a new career.
Thank You, Sasha:
We (I, really) often associate confidence with bullying or the kind of inflexibility that shuts out the feelings of others. This definition is erroneous and an excuse for not cultivating my own confidence. Thanks for the reminder to be honest.
Confidence means acting in accordance with who we really are and not diluting our essence with distractions that take many, many forms including indulging in the problems of others to the point where we harm the individual we purport to help and add more fuel to the fire of the hell we maintain by refusing to look the “rough spots” squarely in the face. There’s much more to say, but I’ll end here and simply say thank you.
Ken
I loved the beginning I did, but the flavour faded away for me.
Though I don’t tend to read that often myself I do enjoy articles from significant others as Master Xarrian no doubt is, that elaborate upon this our shared human experience.
I enjoy reading information about us as an energy field and a behavioral rate I do, because at this moment in time, my physical being is in it vibrating in the rate like we’re all doing.
However as it is by our “own truth” that we at first experience and from there are led to discover that we know things. I personally tend to prefer reading arcticles that share the writers own higher or deeper perspective, instead of those that share what the collective experience of us all is.
All blessings,
Jaia (A.K.A Johnny Pink)
thank you for your inspirational stories. they have been a great help to me reading them. just knowing what i’m going through in life right now is only temporary. in my heart of hearts i know better days are here. THIS TO SHALL PASS.
We all will have to “die ” to the old before starting with the new.
We are seeds to be planted or caterpillars that eventually turn to butterflies…The act of changing itself can be painful yet necessary for growth …usually transitioning us into a stronger state of being.It is easier said than done! It shows me that I don’t need to be Wonderwoman just to be a human being…I will to be!
Hi Sasha,
You know what i remember saying, Why did this happen? Why? Why? And it is an experience. This article is wonderful.
“It is your challenge. Rise to the occasion and show yourself who you are”. I woke up at 5:00 a.m. this morning, and let me tell you, this was just what I needed. I have acknowledge this statement and so, much time has been wasted by doughting or fear, that i guess i forgot that i asked for peace years ago. I disrupted my own peace of mind by trying to keep things in my life that probrably should not of been their in the first place. This explains why i am so moody and feeling confused. I have never questioned my integridy or morals yet, others pressure me to stretch them out because of how i care for them.
I donot believe in conforming to this world and i am a better person for not doing so but it is difficult because you donot want to hur the ones you love, even when they keep hurting you.
Its time to deal.
Hi Sasha,
Great book. I just finished reading it. I got that vibe of empowerment and feeling good about myself. Great suggestions and thanks for sharing it.
You know it’s so funny, but this book reminds me of something Jack Canfield said once,” Make someone else feel good today and you’ll feel so much better about yourself.”
What a great mantra to live by. You make others feel good about themselves and then you feel better as a byproduct of that process.
Thanks again,
Steve
I like this article. It is true that no matter what happens, we hold the power to immediately shift our experience into a blessing.
I would like to get in touch with Heide who is one of the people who left a comment. Since I’m also into Real Estate I have some information that can help her. Can you give her my email address so she can contact me. Than You
Beautifully said!
Exactly what I’m feeling about all that comes on your path… the terrain may be rough, but just strap on your boots, exercise those muscles, stop to enjoy the view every once in while, and enjoy life’s hike!