UPDATE: John Assaraf’s full Vision Board story over here »

A few weeks ago I had the pleasure of visiting John Assaraf in his home in California. When I was there he shared an incredible story that got him into The Secret, CNN, and even Oprah. This story’s nothing short of amazing and will probably have you reaching for the glue so you can make your own vision board.

What you’re going to see here though is what was left out of The Secret. It’s behind the scenes footage with John straight from his home:

Click here to view the embedded video.

But this is just half the story. John has decided to share the entire story with all the nitty gritty details in an interview over here »

Plus he shares the research he’s done when it comes to visualization and how simple tools like Vision Boards can help you achieve your dreams. Awesome video and I totally recommend you watch it now.

Souls mates…they don’t come easy. Out of the millions of people out there in this clutter of life, how is it possible to meet that one person you KNOW is meant for you for life? What are the lucky odds of bumping into the one that will complete you?

Well, Lourdes Elardo-Gant, the Magical Manifesting Mentor, tells us it’s less about luck and more about wanting, she shows us how we can have the love that we all deserve and keep it too! Read this awesome article and let us know what you think…

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How To Find Your Soul Mate Using The Law of Attraction

by Lourdes Elardo-Gant

Part of the Christian mythology about the creation of the universe is the story of the Garden of Eden. In this story, God created what he defined as paradise for the first two human beings, Adam and Eve. He told them that they would be happy there as long as they did not try to think for themselves. He defined this with the analogy of a simple apple tree which he called the Tree of Knowledge. He gave to each the ability to eat the fruit of this tree should they decide to do so, and warned them that if they did eat from the Tree of Knowledge they would be banned from paradise forever. In this story, people are being led to believe that the only way they can achieve the happiness they seek is to give up their right to think for themselves. But the exact opposite is the truth. We actually need to do both.

We need to choose to “let go and let God” as an act of free will. This means we need to take full responsibility to act with faith. We need to stop thinking about every little thing we do and just LET go and let the vastly most powerful, complex, dynamic energies of the universe provide that to which we choose to open.

In the Silva Mind Development training, a major point we are taught is to simply have FAITH. The equation we are given is that FAITH = DESIRE + BELIEF + EXPECTANCY. So the first step is to have a burning desire to manifest your soul mate. The second step is to put aside all historical judgments and simply have a fundamental belief that this will become so. The 3rd step is to have a genuine expectancy of being in this relationship with your soul mate. Stop trying to determine how to get there. Simply let go, and visualize with every aspect of your being, actually being within the relationship. See it, feel it, taste it, orgasm into it, love it, reject all fear, all hesitation, all rationalization, all doubt, all qualification. Just let go and be within that existence. In short, the first step is to simply have faith. This is the true power of FAITH.

Once you are into this state of faith, then you must open yourself up to all possibilities. Do not carry with you any preconceived notions as to who the perfect soul mate will be. Because as those who have gone before us who made Law Of Attraction work can easily tell you, what ended up as the ultimate achievement for them in the creation of their soul mate was not what they preconceived it to be. In short, trust the wisdom of the process. Allow the mind to help you energize and meld with the ultimate possibilities of the universe with all that its wisdom can bring into your life.

In order to open to all possibilities, you must set aside your idea as to what the end result should be. Trust the process with the good faith that is necessary to make it work for you.

In the process of doing this there is nothing more crucial than to take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself is the cornerstone of the foundation you are creating upon which you will build this new relationship.

The act of taking care of yourself within this realm of open faithfulness to the process will lead to a surprising clarity as to who you are, how to meld into the energies of the universe, and how to see your soul mate when he shows up in your life. You really do not know who he will be. He could be a dwarf, or a giant. He could be immensely successful in a multitude of philistine earthly ways or he could be someone with the beautiful simplicity and purity of a monk. He could be an ordinary farmer standing in a field of gold melding with the world around him in a way that goes beyond anyone you have ever encountered in your life. The truth is he will be what you have opened yourself to see.

Only then will the pragmatic come into play in a way that will be effective. You will find yourself being easily able to spend quality time with those who matter. No longer will you waste your time trying to mentally weed out those that you should reject as potential soul mates. From this will naturally arise a healthy tendency to enhance your relationships with others with your new found inner developed qualities. You will find you can now trust your emotions to guide you with a new found wisdom. At this stage you will come to a profound realization that the primary purpose of seeking out your soul mate has actually been fulfilled in the creation of yourself as a whole person, and you will begin to truly celebrate your existence. From this celebration will come the ultimate attraction of the person you were destined to spend the rest of your life with.

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Got a question about creating the life of your dreams? Who doesn’t, right? Well, here’s your chance to get them answered.

Next week, I’ll be doing a teleseminar with Mark Joyner. This guy rocks. He’s a #1 best-selling author of over a dozen books, a pioneer of ecommerce, and his website even became the 37th most visited website ON THE PLANET within 6 weeks of its release. And from his experience and studies, he’s crafted a unifying theory of personal growth that seeks to help you achieve your goals fast.

It’s all about being simple.

I’ll drop you the invite this week but the teleseminar is next Thursday. Mark will be sharing the secrets to living your dreams with a way of life he calls Simpleology or the simple science of getting what you want. His work has been featured on Wall Street and has helped 531,585 people around the world. That’s how good his methods are.

So if you’ve got a question on how to create your desired life… just leave a comment here.

It is incredible the things we can do with our minds if we just believe. Just by believing, you are already half way to achieving. Just like Vishen always says, “When you are in flow and you set an intention, the universe bends in your favor.”

So what is it that makes our minds tick that way? And how can we benefit from this? It’s all here in this 2-part article by William Horton. Have you ever had an incident where your mind gave you the power to achieve incredible feats? Of course you have! Leave a comment and share your story with us.

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The Incredible Power Of Beliefs (Part 1)

by William Horton, Psy. D.

It is no secret that some individuals are much more successful than others. Why is this? Are they smarter, better businessmen, or do they have something that others lack? If you draw your conclusion from history, you will see that it is not necessarily any of the above, but something the internal operating system of the brain offers. This operating system is where individuals determine what they expect from themselves, therefore living up to it. If you are expecting to fail, guess what? If you aspire and expect to be the CEO of a company, you will!

Most people think that truly amazing or successful people were handed all the right cards in life. A powerful family, wealth and a great home life, which is not always the case. Look at Mahatma Gandhi, Ho Chi Minh or The Wright Brothers. None of these individuals were extremely powerful or came from great wealth. They were all common individuals, lawyers and bicycle repairmen. These individuals accomplished great things, because they were telling themselves great things and expecting nothing less of themselves. The human belief system is a very powerful thing and what many do not realize is that they set themselves up for failure without ever saying a word. The internal feelings and beliefs about yourself can either make you or break you, it is truly that powerful.

This is not to say that there will not be bumps along the way even with a powerful and positive belief system. That would be fantasy to only assume that success would fall in your lap. What you need to know is that there will be trials along the way, but these can be turned into a positive process by learning from mistakes. Taking less successful ideas and turning them into feed back, correcting and tweaking the system is the formula for success.

Beliefs: Personal Potential

The goal or system of a success vision is not an overnight venture. In some cases, it takes months or years to achieve. Tapping into creative resources within your person is sometimes a trial by error system. As you grow in your success, you also learn about yourself, limitations and strengths. This takes patience and time, which those that are unsuccessful have neither of. As simple as it may sound, a lesson can be drawn from reading this article. You can assume that a system of success sounds great, but will likely not work. Alternatively, you could drive into your operating system that this is a great pep talk that is guidance in fulfilling your dreams. It is all in how you look at the opportunity and code it inside that brain of yours. Believing in yourself is the absolute most important step in any venture that you will ever take on. Taking on new challenges and telling yourself that you will succeed can prove yourself right.

The Pygmalion Effect

This theory is not a new one, but one that can make your dreams come true. In 1957 a professor by the name of Robert Merton, researched how people’s perceptions of those around them influenced their own. As a research project, a young teacher was told that she would be teaching a group of gifted students. These students were not gifted at all, in fact they fell in the average with behavior problems. In a short period of time, the teacher discovered that the students were not engaged, interested or able to behave with the current teaching style. She worked very hard to come up with a new teaching style and sparked the curiosity of these students. After a very fruitful year, the students were engaged, learning and in fact proved it with a 20–30 point IQ jump. How did this work? Did she turn these students into gifted student? The answer is yes. She changed her style based on the belief that these students were gifted and that she must improve. Had she expected less of them the results would have never been the same. Can you imagine if you were operating at this level?

This theory developed into what is called the Social Theory and Social Structure, which is very true. People base their behavior and expectations around those individuals that they are associated with or around. If the expectation is low, then so will the performance and vice versa.

Beliefs and Bio Chemistry

Your beliefs not only affect your thinking, but also your health and wellbeing. The placebo affect proves this. In a study, patients were randomly selected to receive either a “sugar pill” or an analgesic for a headache, without them knowing which. Too much surprise, the sugar pill recipients, believing that they received an analgesic, had close to the same results as those  students receiving the medication for pain! Now what does that tell us? That tells us that what people perceive and believe is what happens. The individuals receiving the sugar pill believed that the medication would work for the headache therefore relieving their pain. Do you see how important the belief system is now?

The Placebo effect is so strong that even the FDA acknowledges the fact that individuals can benefit from a “fake” pill because they believe in it. Another study took two groups of which one group would be given a stimulant and the other a depressant. The group that was given the stimulant was told that it was a depressant and vice versa. The results are amazing because the students actually controlled their bio chemical makeup because they reported results consistent with the expected outcome, not the actual medication. Those students receiving the stimulant reported feeling drowsy and groggy. Those that were given the depressant felt full of energy! It was just opposite of the actual effects of the medication. But, they told themselves that was how they were suppose to feel, therefore they did!

Real VS. Imagined Experience

Medical science has proven that our brain does not differentiate what is vividly imagined or actually experienced. The same neurological impulses are triggered throughout the nervous system for both situations. This signifies that when we close our eyes and imagine ourselves in that dream-like state, we are more likely to achieve. In fact, one could say that we were preparing ourselves for that success. Imagine this to test out this theory:

Take a large yellow lemon – the mere name signifies sour. Now close your eyes and imagine biting into that lemon. The sour juice drenches your tongue making your nose twitch and mouth pucker. The smell and cold feeling of the lemon on your hands and close to your nose, lets you know how sour it really tastes. Are you salivating, I bet the answer is YES! That is because your nervous system has been activated just as if you had that lemon in your mouth – see it does work!

This imagination can work to the benefit or the demise of many people. Many begin to fear at the mere sound of a situation, which can actually cause them health problems. When the fear and stress response is activated, the immune system can be suppressed making the individual more prone to illness. How well can an individual do under great stress, fear and illness?

Mental Rehearsal – The Secret Weapon

For years, the Russians have dominated the Olympic games in gymnastics. So many have pondered the fact and never truly understood, how and why their performance was so excellent. Do you realize that they employ the help of a sports psychologist? This psychologist offers many psychological techniques that enhance physical technique. Not only do the Russians prepare their body, but also their mind. Think about it, when you rehearse failure in your mind, what are you likely to do? On the other hand, if you follow the Russians and their secret mental preparedness, you can succeed as well. Rehearse in your mind the positives and the pictures of success, soon you will be seeing them in person.

More on the incredible power of beliefs tomorrow!

Editor’s Note: We had such an overwhelming response to Richard’s last article on FinerMinds that we had to get him back again. And this time he’s got another special free subliminal video for all FinerMinds readers. You can download it here »

“The Law of Attraction is B.S.” .…

They were the first words out of the mouth of one my clients last week. She was frustrated and upset when I spoke to her on the phone. I think that’s a place we’ve all been at some stage, don’t you?

She went on to say “It should be called The Law of ‘Opposites because everything I want I get less of, and everything I don’t worry about I can manifest really easily”.

I said to her, “It sounds like the law of attraction is working perfectly for you!”

There was a deafening silence on the end of the phone.

I was about to either be verbally butchered , or she was having a major breakthrough.

During that silence, which seemed like an eternity, it occurred to me that we really should call it the “Law of Opposites”.

The Law Of Opposites

We’ve all heard the stories about the couple who want to start a family and can’t. After years of trying they stop, they let go and enjoy how truly great their lives are. Then WHAM.…. A couple of months latter they’re pregnant.

Or what about the person who is pursuing a corporate career, fighting hard for every promotion, making large sacrifices and doing everything they can to get to the next level. At some point they release the idea, realizing it’s not worth all the energy. They let go and take in just how beautiful things are already in their life. Then WHAM.… They start getting more promotions, quicker and easier than they have ever had before.

These types of stories abound, and they are not urban myths. I’ve personally experienced both of them, and I know many others who’ve done the same and much more.

Focus On What’s Awesome In Your Life

What’s happening when “you let go”, is you’re shifting your focus from “what’s not right in your life” to “what’s awesome in your life”. You still feel there are some things that would be nice to have, but your key focus is on “what’s awesome in your life”.

As soon as I wrote that last paragraph, I could hear some of my clients screaming “STOP RIGHT THERE! It’s too easy to say that, and extremely hard to do when your heart has just been broken, or when you have nowhere to live and a mountain of debt, or you’ve been trying for years to start a family with no success.”

How do you focus on what’s awesome in your life under those circumstances?

Turning The Law Of Opposites Into The Law Of Attraction

Well I’ve been in every one of those circumstances and I know the pain that goes with them. And I also know what takes the pain away, what makes letting go really easy and what turns the “law of opposites” into the “law of attraction”.

It’s an absolute belief beyond doubt and a complete trust that the universe will deliver. It’s like breathing, you don’t have to think about it, you don’t have to worry about it, you trust it will happen and it does happen. It’s exactly the same with consciously manifesting anything, you don’t worry about it, you don’t even have to think about, you just need to trust that it will happen and it does happen.

Getting that trust and belief in the universe to deliver, begins with yourself, you are part of the universe, and the universe is part of you. The ‘trick’ is in believing in yourself and trusting in the universe to deliver. Because doubting either of these things will stop you dead in your tracks from consciously manifesting whatever you desire.

Real, conscious manifesting begins with your beliefs about yourself. That’s the place to start. When you have faith in yourself, then there is a congruency between the universal energy and your energy, a vibrational alignment. And it’s this alignment that works to fulfill all your desires.

But there’s a catch…

The First Step To Go From “Knowing” To “Doing It”

See, “knowing” what to do and actually “doing it” are two very different things. Knowing that you need to have this absolute belief in yourself, and, therefore in the universe so as to invoke a vibrational alignment is one thing — actually feeling that is another whole different story… You need to implement this concept into your reality if you’re going to make some real change.

One great first step I recommend is to make use of one of your greatest resources — and its free! It’s your close friends.

Call one of your close friends and ask them if they would like to have a mutual “what’s awesome in your life” session. Write down all the things that are awesome in your friend’s life, and they do the same for you. When you meet, you tell your friend all the things you wrote down and why you think they are awesome. Then your friend does the same for you. Remember: no judgment, don’t offer any helpful suggestions or ideas for improvements, this is just about only what’s awesome and why.

You’ll be amazed at all the wonderful things that you already have and just take for granted. Some things, which you see as negatives, when viewed through someone else’s eyes may actually be positives. Remember, these awesome things are in your life because you attracted them, not because of good luck, or any other external influence you can think of, it’s all you.

Welcome those feelings with open arms, don’t reject them, they are a gift and it’s insulting to not accept such a beautiful gift.

You’ll also be cementing an even greater relationship with your close friend.

That’s an awesome first step to changing what you believe about yourself.

Mind Technology To Bypass The Conscious

Another great step is to consider all the latest advances in mind technology these days, which are designed to rapidly turn your dreams into realities and results. Right now, it’s never been easier. It all begins by changing how you feel about yourself, and you can significantly speed up that process by taking advantage of the latest tools and techniques available to you.

I remember a time when I had a huge fear of public speaking. Using some of the latest technologies brought that to an end within one week. That’s right, one of the biggest fears that many people have, gone within a week. In fact, it’s so gone that only a few weeks ago I was standing on a stage in front of over 300 people and to build the energy in the room, I was dancing (another fear I had) to ABBA of all things (this was a seminar, not a nightclub). That’s how powerful these techniques are.

Subliminal Video Messaging

In my personal and professional experience, the easiest of these new mind expanding methods (especially when you’re starting out), would have to be Subliminal Video Messaging — mainly because you can watch these videos on your own without any sort of learning curve, and it only takes a few minutes each day.

In a nutshell, the powerful affirmations behind subliminal videos “by-pass” your conscious mind and work directly with your unconscious (where all of your beliefs are stored), making them incredibly effective to create rapid positive change in the areas you most desire.

The good news is Noel Jones has just released a completely astonishing set of subliminal videos called the “Success Accelerator” Subliminal Video Series. These videos use the latest in media technology to ensure the messages are delivered at the best speed to make effective change. They also incorporate the latest learnings about subliminal affirmations, which in fact need to be created using different rules to normal affirmations.

Subliminal Affirmations

Here’s an important tip: if you are just using “normal” affirmations in subliminal videos, they will not work as effective as they could be.

Noel also provides some of the best customer support I’ve ever seen on the internet and he is dedicated to seeing as many people as possible breakthrough their barriers to have all that they desire in their life. That’s why he’s offering a sample of one of his new videos for you to begin making the change.

I’d really like to hear your thoughts about the “what’s awesome in your life” exercise or any other comments you might have. So please don’t hold back, ’cause I’d like to know what’s awesome about this article

Warmly

Richard A. Luck

Oh — My client, she did have a breakthrough during our session! In fact I just got an email from her this morning letting me know that her inner voice has started to say “you really are blessed and beautiful”. I certainly wish the same results for you.

Want to bypass your conscious mental chatter and get straight to accelerating your success? Then click here to get your FREE subliminal video »

So we recently did a post on mind movies and we got a surprising number of responses from people sharing their mind movies.

But we want more!

It’s always great to grab inspiration from each other and give support to one another. So drop us a comment with a link to your mind movie and we PROMISE that we’ll share them with the community.

Now, if you don’t have a mind movie yet, here are 5 tips to get you going:

1. Before you start, sit and really think about what you want and the WHYs behind those desires. Write down that list and check it twice.
2. Don’t simply put objects. Write down mindsets that you wish to have and achieve. Ex. My subconscious is aligned with perfect health/wealth/inner peace…
3. Find your favorite affirmations and make those along with your desired mindsets (from point 2) titles within your mind movie.
4. Put in all the things that already make you happy and bring out the positive energy in you. Like your friends, family, pets, your career, etc.
5. For a quick way to make a mind movie, input all the images into KeyNote or PowerPoint, export the finished slides as images, then drag them into a movie making software like iMovie (which will automatically import them as a movie sequence). And don’t forget to pick the music!

If you want a really professional mind movie and for those who aren’t as technologically-inclined, you can check out this software made specifically for making mind movies » What’s great about this software is that it gives you guidance on clarifying your visions and goals.

And for those of you who don’t know what a mind movie is, just check out these amazing, awesome, manifesting mind movies:

We really appreciate all the people who sent in their mind movies last week. They rock and so do you!

Drop a comment below with a link to your mind movie and check back next week for the post.

Let’s get some things straight here. Even if you believe in the Law of Attraction, you still need to take a shower and smell good. The Universe can only do so much for your love life without basic hygiene.

What I’m trying to get at is the question that’s been asked for millennia: how do I find, attract, and keep a partner?

I’m guessing you’ve asked yourself this question before or at least had someone ask you, “what’s your type?” or “What do you look for in a guy/girl?”

And I’m also guessing you may not have known exactly what you wanted. That’s why I think this article’s worth a read. It begs the question, “Do you know what you want?” Before you can start attracting you need to know just exactly what it is you want in your life.

Told in 7 steps in a funny and light style, you’ll learn a lot about yourself and your partner too.

How To Attract And Keep A Mate: The First 7 Steps

From The Universe Guru

I have gotten numerous relationship questions in the past few days. The million dollar question: How to attract and keep a partner. Some of you have requested your questions not to be posted on the site– so here are some general guidelines. (My husband can vouch for these – He proposed in exactly two weeks from our first phone conversation)

How to Attract and Keep a Mate:

The First 7 Steps

Have you ever been asked the question, “So what are you looking for in a guy/girl?” Did you seriously ponder this question and honestly reply exactly what it is you are looking for? Or did you suddenly spit back “someone who is caring, loving, and decent looking.” Who doesn’t want someone caring and loving? Is that the best you can do in describing the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with? The person who will not only become your life partner, share your children’s DNA, become a business and financial partner, but will also be the person that decides whether you should be on life support or not? So why do you think you couldn’t come up with a better answer? The answer to that, my dear, is because YOU don’t have a clue about what you are looking for. And let me just tell you how hard it is to find something when you have no idea what it looks like. And the “I’ll know it when I see it,” group – that is the group of people that ends up in relationships you have to make a lot of excuses to keep. So in case it isn’t obvious by now – The number one step for finding and keeping a mate is:

Know what it is you are looking for. Start by making a list. Yes, an actual list, on a piece of paper, with a pen, in your own handwriting. Sit somewhere quiet, be relaxed (not with alcohol), and write down what qualities you are looking for in your ideal partner. Instead of using words like “caring, loving,” use more specific words to describe what a caring and loving person looks like and does. Think about how this person would make you feel. Imagine your ideal relationship as you make this list. Do you envision cooking together, or taking hikes, or perhaps just cuddling by the fireplace? Don’t worry about whether you believe you can get something or not. Just ask for everything you think is important to you.
For those of you that are writing about existing troubled relationships – I still want you to follow this step. Do it without the person you are with in mind. Start from scratch when you make this list. And then later see how your existing relationship holds up. Realize that if he/she doesn’t fit the bill today – they won’t fit two or three years from now, or after you’re married, or even after you have kids. Don’t open an academy. Often times, we get caught up in the “I can change him/her trap. People like to think they are so wonderful, or different, or good looking, that they actually can change someone. It is very hard to change life long habits or well routed ideals and values – unless maybe if your trying to change yourself.

Make a list and check it twice. Now, I want you to read your list and think about why you chose each quality or trait. Is it something that you must have – or are you looking for something to please others. I have a friend who keeps rejecting guys with amazing personalities, values, and ethics because she says “they are not good looking enough to introduce to her friends.” Get rid of qualities you might have selected for others (and while you at it get new, less vain friends). Now you should have a list of someone who fits the profile of your ideal mate. Fold the list and put in away. It has served its purpose and should only come out now when you are showing it to your ideal partner!

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I’ve trained hundreds of thousands of individuals and couples around the world about communication, self-development and how to create satisfying & fun relationships. And I’ve had my own unique personal relationship experiences – some fun, wonderful, some broken and difficult, but each incredibly eye-opening, enlightening, and rewarding as I continued to grow as a person and as a mate. I learned from some of the great masters of Tantra and I also had great mentors and teachers who taught me about love, intimacy, spirit, connection, giving and receiving.

I started finding out about how to have great relationships and sex when I was in elementary school.  Not that I had sex then, but I found out how boys and men thought, and how they operated, and what they wanted, how they interpreted their surroundings, and what they liked (which all later led to some really great relationships and some really great sex), but then that’s another story!

What I really want to talk about is this:

Men And Women Are Not Made The Same

When communication and expectations are based on the assumption that men and women are the same – that they have the same mind-sets, values and interpretations – then we end up down the road of frustration and anger and upset. And our relationships fall apart.

Men and women are not the same. And when we start to understand the beauty and the humor in the differences between men and women, a whole new world of possibility opens up in how we relate to each other, how we create our relationships, how we
experience sex, and how love and fulfillment can grow even deeper through time.

So here are some ‘Basics’ – like “Relationships 101”.

First you have to understand the Nature of Men and Women », and some of their Innate Qualities…

The Nature Of Men And Women

Women are the attractors and men are the responders. Women “call”; men “respond”. That’s their ‘nature’. Her nature is to create things by being attracting.  His nature is to create things by producing.

Women – The Attractors

The essence of a woman is what is attractive. It is the ability of a woman to attract – seduction in the best sense of the word – that allows others and opportunities to be drawn to her. A woman needs to learn to get in touch with her nature of attraction, and when she does, she will be able to have anything and anyone she wants.

Being competent to connect with that essence, allows resources and people to be drawn to her.   She is the seductress; she is the goddess.  She births and creates and brings things into existence.

Men – The Producers

The nature of the man is to be a performer, a provider, and a producer.  His nature is to bring it home, get it done, make sure it happens, fix it, find it, deliver it, solve it, and produce it. Men want to please their women.  A man is a responder to a call, not usually a caller himself.

A man has an antenna and listens for what is being wanted, what is being asked of him, where he can perform, where he can provide and responds to that call. Men are providers.  Men are performers.

The catch here, of course is that women don’t usually know what they want, and they keep changing their minds; so sometimes it is very difficult for a guy to please her.  And then she usually blames him for not knowing, as she expects him to be able to read her mind.

The Innate Qualities Of Men And Women

Now it is time to discuss the innate qualities of men and women. Men are a little slow, simple (not complicated), and are the ones that can be bigoted. Women are fast and inclusive, but they can also be mean, petty and ‘bitchy’.

The Female and Male Nature

A woman by nature is multi-faceted and is able to multi-task – do more than one thing at a time. She can move from one side of the brain to the other with ease and speed. She thinks, she feels, she acts and she uses her intuition quickly and with variety and subtlety and all at the same time.

A man takes longer to move from left-brain to right brain and back again. This is important to understand as each side of the brain allows action in different realms.  One side of the brain is needed to do analyzing and detail work; and the other side of the brain is needed to do “conceptual tasks” like feeling and being empathetic.

A woman goes back and forth between these different worlds very quickly; a man needs time to jump from one to the other. When a woman assumes a man can do it the way she is able to do it; then she will be impatient with him, because he is slower than she is, and she may even interpret his actions as resistance or non-caring.

What Men And Women Need To Learn

Women overuse ‘bitchiness’. Being a bitch is an ‘asset’ that women have; but they should use the asset sparingly, or not at all.  A man should know that it is possible for a woman to get bitchy, but not have to experience that unless it is absolutely necessary.

Men move when they are ‘winning’.  They are paralyzed when they are ‘losing’. Anytime a woman is unhappy a man feels he is losing, and then he can’t move.  Being a ‘bitch’ is exactly the opposite thing to do if a woman wants a man to get something done.

A man feels he is ‘losing’ when his woman is unhappy. If she wants him to do things for her, she needs to be nice and fun, she needs to tell him often what he is doing right, and what she loves about him.  This will allow him to move. Women need to learn how to be nice and fun more of the time, instead of mean and petty.

Understanding The Underlying Fears That Motivate Men And Women

Now that you understand the nature and innate behaviors of men and women », and what some of the differences are, you will now be able to understand the underlying fears that motivate men and women. These fears drive their actions; and when you understand the fears you can start to alleviate them for each other.

A Woman’s Fear: Attraction

A woman’s fear is that she is not attractive enough. A woman is afraid that something else (or someone else) will be able to attract her man more than she can. That is why a woman gets upset if a man spends too much time at work (or if he glances at another woman).

It’s not that she wants him to be around more — even though that may be what she says.  I mean let’s face it — a woman can get more done when a man is out of the house! It’s that she thinks, at some deep unconscious level, that he is more attracted by work (or the other woman) than he is by her, and it is upsetting to her.

If the man would call from work, and tell her how much he is thinking about her, and that he can’t wait to get home, then her complaining would stop, as she would feel that he is attracted first to her, above all else. Once a man understands this, he will be able to alleviate this fear in her.

A Man’s Fear: Failure

A man’s fear is that he won’t succeed. In fact the reason a man takes a bit of time to start any project, is that he has a deep seeded unconscious fear that he won’t be able to deliver.  A woman needs to tell her man that she believes in him. She needs to understand he has a fear that he might not succeed, and to let him know she believes he can, and that he will.  When a man knows his woman believes he can do it, he can do anything.

However a woman usually gets impatient that it takes a man so long to start, that she just goes and does it herself. She is taking away his job of being the producer. She is taking away his longing to be able to please her.

Don’t do it for him – give him the courage to do it himself, and make it fun for him while you are asking for it. Appreciation, acknowledgment and understanding will keep him in a state of being able to act.

EVIDENCE

Here are two true stories that validate my point.

Say It With Flowers…

A man shared in one of my relationship workshops and said,  “I suddenly see why my wife and I divorced, after 25 years. She was a bitch for 23 of them, but I finally got it.  I wasn’t having any fun.”

You see, girls, they stick in there with you for the longest time.

He said “You know what happened, you know what did it?  My wife said one day how much she loved flowers and it would be nice to have flowers around the house all the time.  So I figured it would be better if I got her plastic roses.”

You see this makes sense to a guy.  He wants to please you. Plastic flowers are going to last longer.  It’s a literal thing.  He couldn’t understand why she got mad. He brought his love flowers that were going to last forever.  And sadly, she screamed and yelled at him and told him he was very insensitive and threw them in the garbage pail, and that was finally the end of a marriage.

A White Christmas…

Here’s another example, funny but true. For months a woman says to her husband, “Honey, wouldn’t it be great to have snow at Christmas?”  They lived in Florida.  Now her idea was she was giving him a hint to take her to a ski lodge. Of course any woman reading this would know that.  You know what he did?  He’s so cute.  He went and got a dump truck, and he had it filled with snow and he had it put on the lawn for Christmas.  And he didn’t understand why she was so upset.  He thought he was showing his love for her.

Can The Battle Of The Sexes Finally End?

So you could almost say that men and women are two entirely different species of human beings.
Is there hope for these two species to co-habitate and communicate?  Of course.  It is a deep-seated understanding of our differences that helps us to see the humor and the beauty in them.  It allows us to bring out the best in each other, and to create deep and lasting and fulfilling relationships.

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P.S. Find out how to bring your negative automatic behavior under control and into your consciousness to prevent yourself from hurting those you love.

We’ve received a ton of emails and comments from you guys asking for some content on the Law of Attraction and it’s applications for love and relationships.

So without further ado, here are 5 articles that you need to read before you start attracting your ideal partner.

If you have any other ideas, comments, or know any other good resources, please leave us a comment and share your insights with the rest of the community.

The Law of Attraction in Relationships

by Maritza Parra

A great article on learning to let go of the control freak in you when it comes to your love life. It’s definitely an important lesson, especially when you’re dealing with a loved one.

This article will also give you some insight on your relationship style and tell you how to control your energy to give you a happier relationship with yourself and your partner.

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Strange Tale Of Law Of Attraction And Relationships — Part 2

from Abundance Attracting Accelerated

Do you sometimes feel like you’re repeating the same relationship over and over again? Sure, it’s a new name, a different face, but somehow the relationships are all ending the same.

This might be you or it might be someone you know. This article gives a great examination of why people end up in these types of relationships and why they keep attracting abuse, pain, and sadness. According to the article, it all stems from “victim vibration.”

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Can you Save your Relationship with the Law of Attraction?

by Dan and Jennifer

A great article on a common misconception when it comes to the LOA and love. There are lots of people out there who think that with the LOA they can change their partner’s actions and behavior.

Well, sorry folks. That ain’t the case. Read why this is so and how you can change your mindset to put positive energy into the relationship in this article.

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Feeling Unworthy …

from The Naked Soul

I love this article. While the LOA can be an immense help in attracting your perfect partner, you need to put yourself first. Find your inner peace, know who you are, and above all else, love yourself.

Because if you feel unworthy, you’re gonna start attracting the wrong type of people into your life. Give this article a read and find out if you’re suffering from this problem and what you can do to change it.

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Improving Relationships: The Law of Attraction is Only a First Step

by Chris

A quick read with 3 very important steps you need to go through to analyze your relationship and bring it to the next level. Your relationship may be good already, but it can be awesome!

Try these 3 steps for yourself.  The author claims that they’ve worked for him every single time. While these steps are simple and straightforward, many people fail to do them. This sadly results in a failed or stagnant relationship.

Click here to read this article »

Hope these resources have helped. And as always, let us know how you feel by leaving us a comment.

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